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Using traditions and their importance to you as a person and writer

Most families have traditions especially for holidays. I have traditions for almost every major holiday and some other times that are just unique to me or my family

Yesterday, I missed my traditional celebration for St. Patrick’s day since I was feeling under the weather. I will try to make it up sometime in the next week, but it won’t be quite the same.

I have always felt traditions were especially important when you have children at home. Traditions give your kids a sense of heritage and history. They help them feel connected to a larger something. They feel like they belong and they fit in. Traditions are important.

Even though, we have no small children at home, we still carry on lots of traditions. There will be celebrations for every holiday possible and some we made up to get rid of the everyday boredom.

Some intimate celebrations and parties were borne of the winter blahs, a streak of bad luck or just plain boredom. We decided something out of the ordinary must happen in order to restore our good nature and equilibrium.

Knowing about cultural traditions can be an asset when writing out of your personal experience. The variety of traditions people have invented for the holidays are often quite interesting and could be something to stimulate your thinking.

Traditions will give authority and credibility to your writing when used appropriately. It will help flesh out a character and allow them to come alive. It will add depth to your story or plot and could even be the main theme you are exploring.

Traditions offer a chance for another level of your writing. For writers this could be a welcome event.

As well as providing useful material for your stories and poems, it could be of a helpful nature to the writer and their family. Never taking time for oneself or your family, will leave the writer bankrupt of the support and love they need to continue. Traditions are those things we value and have special significance to us. If our families think they are getting short shrift of your time, they will feel threatened and unhappy. An unhappy spouse, significant other or family can be an awful burden to a writer. Keep everyone happy and celebrate those traditions that are so personal for you.

 

Random thoughts-Don’t let anything keep you from family

I have decided that sometimes what I really want to talk about has nothing to do with my blog topic. So on these days, I hope you will forgive and maybe enjoy my transgressing and my random thoughts.

My son, his family, my husband and I finally got back to our Sunday dinners last night. I used to cook dinner almost every Sunday, but it has been weeks since I last made us all a weekend meal. Many things stood in our way since our last meal together on New Year’s Eve. My husband had the flu, my son has been in tremendous pain with a bad back and it took forever to get to see his neurologist. He is still waiting for an MRI and is on heavy duty meds which makes incidentally makes him very entertaining. We had conflicts in work schedules and grandson’s games and family responsibilities. We had a crunching of the budget due to some unforeseen events. However, none of this excuses our absence from one another.

As I sat there last night while dining I was thinking about what should be so important as to cancel or stop our weekly gatherings? No matter what is happening, we should touch in with each other often. Well, we do Facebook and text and occasionally call, but I am speaking of the face-to-face meetings. They are so important.

The importance of seeing family often is not appreciated or we would all attempt to make it happen on a weekly basis. We are only a couple miles apart (unlike my daughter and her family) so we should be able to keep in touch.

I have always held eating together as a family in the highest esteem and when I fostered teens, there were few reasons that could excuse them from the supper table. That was our time to eyeball them. Since we fostered the challenging ones who got to come to our house instead of jail, we really needed to do this. You would be surprised how much you can learn about your kids when you look at them and really listen to them. Sometimes, you find out more than you wish you knew. Still it is a valuable time to connect.

To me the enjoyment of good food in good company is my best entertainment even if I do the cooking and it is at my house. Simple desires and wishes can be attained much easier than those high cost adventures and vacations. Even those dinners out cannot often compete with the fun and laughter that accompanies family in a relaxed, casual setting.

The fact that a great attitude comes out of these meals as well as an inordinate amount of craziness just confirms my feeling it is not only wanted but needed. Recently, while researching for an article, I found out that studies have confirmed that laughter really is the best medicine. Since most of us have some illness, pain or other emotional problem it is just what the doctor ordered. We had to cut our experience a bit shorter than usual since my son is in so much pain right now. It is vital to a healthy existence to spend time together whenever possible. We must make up our mind to make this a reality no matter what is happening. Still it is a valuable experience every time we connect.

Life can be shortened so suddenly for anyone and we should remember to keep our family and all loved ones close.